Which MBTI type is most likely to cheat?

Hey guys! I know a lot of you have been getting pretty restless for your favourite MBTI writer’s latest blog post! Just so you all know, I’m not Tatl33, the usual writer for this website. I’m a past writer who has returned once more, keen to write more content for this incredible community. That being said, I hope you all enjoy and follow Which MBTI type on Facebook and Twitter.

Cheating in relationships has been, and seemingly always will be, a topical issue. Survey after survey has proven that many people value trust and commitment in a partner. From scandalous TV actors to dirty politicians, the media continues to report on cheating celebrities time and time again. On top of all this, statistics clearly show that the rate of divorce is rapidly increasing, surpassing 50% in America alone. So which MBTI type is most likely to be involved in an affair? The answer is simple: an ESTP type.

Cheating is considered very bad in modern society. Which MBTI type challenges the norm?

The first factor to consider is I vs E. Cheaters generally are more likely to be extroverts, as extroverts draw energy from their social interactions. As a result, extroverts not only have a more extensive circle of friends, they also seek out the company of others more often compared to introverts. This in turn gives them more opportunities to cheat, making extroverts the prime candidates for being a double-crossing partner in a relationship.

It also makes sense that sensors are more inclined to cheat on their significant others compared to intuitive types. On the one hand, sensors are more present-oriented, living life in the moment above all else. The S temperament is therefore perfect for cheating. N’s on the other hand focus more on the big picture, making them more considerate of how their actions could affect their partner. A cheater is obviously a lot more likely to be a sensor.

Next on the list is the T vs F types. As we all know, feelers make their decisions based on people. They consider how their actions could affect their personal relationships, and do not want to compromise their good will with others. If an F type was to cheat, they would damage their bond with their partner. In addition, F types generally have a set of core values that they feel passionately about. They do not want to perform an action that would compromise their morals – this means it would be very unlikely that an F type would violate the trust, loyalty and commitment that they share with another person. In comparison, when thinkers make decisions they are less likely to consider how the outcome could affect their personal relationships. Therefore, they are more compelled to cheat in the pursuit of personal gratification, without thinking about the consequences on others.

So a cheater is clearly an EST type, but are they more of a perceiver or judger? Because of their spontaneity and less future-oriented approach, perceivers are generally much more inclined to pursue an affair. Perceivers are also open to new ideas, and are less conforming to typical notions of morality. They could make the spontaneous decision to cheat on their partner of twenty years, for example, without considering the future ramifications.

In conclusion, the dirty dogs are clearly the ESTP’s. Next time an ESTP walks up to you in a bar and gives you their number, be wary folks! And if you’re already in a married relationship with an ESTP, I’m sorry to say this but you might just become another divorce statistic.

Which MBTI type is most likely to cheat in your experience? Do you think cheating is more dependent on personality or something else? Let me know in the comments below. I love hearing your insights and intend to respond to all of you🙂

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20 Responses to Which MBTI type is most likely to cheat?

  1. oopsifarted says:

    Also, I’d just like to add that I know I’m not as experienced in MBTI as Tatl33 and a lot of other commenters here. This blog entry was mostly for fun. However, I also partly wrote this blog for learning experience, so all criticisms are certainly welcome!

    • Anonymous says:

      It is at least irresponsible and anti ethical to say that a psychological type will certainly betray. This kind of disservice should have a process for moral damages. How can you say something that can harm someone’s life forever?

  2. You’re right. I concur with you that it is the SP’s that are more likely to cheat. The question is “why?”

    I have come to believe that the SP preferences evolved because of humanity’s need for fighters. Human history is one of constant wars. We need fighters in our society, because sooner or later, we’ll be at war again. It is the SP’s, if you look at their traits, that are natural warriors. In fact, I call people with the SP preference “warriors” on my web site (CustomerSecrets.com), because of the sum of their traits.

    So why would a “warrior” value cheating? That is easy to answer. In a life-and-death situation, you want to use every opportunity that you have available to come out on top. Cheating is a subset of deception, which is itself a success strategy in conflict. As Sun Tsu said: “All warfare is based on deception.”

    I like this topic, and I congratulate you on having the balls to write about. It brings up a couple of interesting points. First, all personality types have characteristics that people of other types would find objectionable. There is no perfect personality type – we all have traits that other people despise. For example, I come across to others as being a “know-it-all.” It turns off a lot of people (about 3/4ths of the population). But at least I know how I come across as my natural tendency, and I can try to take steps to suppress that characteristic. I feel sorry for people of my type that don’t know how other people perceive them, because they are losing out and they don’t even know why.

    Second point: the thing you’re doing on this site is utilizing personality as a tool. You’re using it to predict likely future behavior of others based on their type. That is very powerful! I do the same thing when teaching people how to use personality temperaments to do marketing and sales.

    Many people in the MBTI community do not like this aspect of being able to predict future behavior of other people and try to suppress it. For example, a MBTI practitioner is forbidden to use personality type in employment selection. In practical terms, they are discouraged from mentioning the objectionable characteristics of each temperament. It leads to discrimination based on type.

    For example, if you had to hire a new employee, and you knew that one candidate had the SP preferences, would you hire them?

    That’s a huge question. Why? If the SP has a greater tendency to be a cheater (as you mentioned in your post), what would that mean if they were an employee in your company? Would they pad their time-sheet and expense reports? How would your life change as their manager if you knew that you’d have to watch them like a hawk? Obviously, it changes the perceived risk factor associated with hiring an SP. And that opens up a huge can of worms, which is probably why MBTI practitioners don’t discuss negative traits of people.

  3. jdieqzx says:

    GREAT QUESTION. The ESXX is the most likely to display these behaviors. I do not believe the TF or PJ functions have a great impact on this process. The open ended-ness in P might allow for “in the moment” behavior but it also allows for “I can always return to it” behavior. The J might cause an ESXJ to act in the moment as well, if angry or hurt in a recent period of time prior to the cheating opportunity. Thinkers can rationalize “it is time to cheat” but feelers may feel sorry for themselves as well or for the person they are with at that point in time. Only the ES function is a solid lock on this one. The J function seems to act as a linear guide for the other functions. So a “J” might be more studious then a “P” if they are both INX. But it might also create narrow-mindedness when mixed with ESX.

    • Anonymous says:

      I would clarify and say the ESxP types are most likely, ESxJ I think are some of the least likely. ISTJ is probably the least likely and ESFP the most, can’t really call it on the letters it depends on the cognitive functions.

      • FaithfulENTP says:

        My ISTJ husband of 15 years has had multiple affairs over the course of our relationship. One night stands with escorts. Maybe your summation re: ISTJ’s being the least likely needs to be reevaluated.

  4. Anonymous says:

    I’m an ESTP and I would never cheat if I was actually in a committed relationship, which I avoid like the plague, due to finding the whole boyfriend girlfriend thing a nuisance at this point in my life. But theoreticaly speaking I would NEVER. My good character and integrity would never intentionally betray and hurt someone like that. But I do understand where the stereotype comes from

  5. AnotherINFP says:

    Divorced from an ESTP who cheated. I think he just needed a new adventure. I think our personality types were like the worst match up ever. He always needed something new and different to keep him stimulated. Whatever he was into for that 15 min of his life, he was neck deep, with all new friends to jump in with him and network with and sell his new idea to- whether it be a game, drug, yard project, club…etc. he always had to have, never had enough and was bored easily. Perfect personality to turn into a cheat. Maybe never meant for monogamy.

    • Anonymous says:

      I worked with a partner who was exactly the same. ESTP, and was constantly looking for the next hobby/project to latch onto for a little while. Personality was great, but loyalty was not. While his ISFJ wife was calling me concerned that her husband wasn’t home, he was out having continous one night stands even after he fathered his first child with his wife.

  6. cincinnati7 says:

    I don’t have that many S type friends. Agree with ESTP being most likely based on personality. In my personal experience, ENTJ males, two I’ve known very well, are also likely to cheat. Both would be categorized as womanizers. One is married to his 4th wife; one is divorced from his 4th wife. Both were born in Europe. Both are charming and accomplished making them very attractive to women.

  7. Amiinah Ali says:

    ENFP( females from my experience)are also likely to cheat… they want to please everyone, so easy to impress. Kinda makes me mad to watch someone close to me do this… so i use a tactful way to tell them to have “atleast” a clear direction or decision in love. They can also date two people in one day….. as an INFJ i hateeee this so much and i feel the pain of their unaware partners. Anyway, ENFP’ s can be more relaxed than i am, I loathe hypocrisy, I’d rather show u the real me or not at all.

  8. Yoko says:

    I agree with the S and P logic.

    Also, Extroverts will definitely have more opportunities, but that says nothing about their principles and whether they’d actually do it. An Introvert could be corrupt and unfaithful in their mind, and just not bother to do anything in reality.

    I’m not so sure about T versus F. I’ve known an unstable person who definitely wasn’t a Thinker, who was cheating on everybody. Also, F types can be evil manipulators who don’t really care about the feelings of others.🙂

  9. Nick says:

    I am ENFP and I have cheated a number of times. I always feel huge levels of guilt afterwards, but I get caught up in the moment… I’m not sure if this is reflective of the ENFP characteristics? What do people think that know MBTI better than me?

  10. M M says:

    I have had acquaintances that were ISTJs, ENFPs, and ENTPs who were all cheaters. The ISTJ seemed like a sociopath, the ENFP was a sales person and needed at be admired and make the sale so to speak, and the ENTP was also a salesman and very competitive.

  11. I agree fully that this is a rich and fascinating realm of questioning and discussion. I do, however, suggest (and I know others have mentioned this, as it’s an old area of conflict regarding the science of MBTI), that any valid address of the MBTI + FIDELITY question must rest on sound empirical findings. Any other way lies madness. It’s way fun to speculate about this, and I would just love to see the studies. And I am sure many have been done.

  12. dukeseldon says:

    I have been with married multiple married women and I believe ENFP to be more likely to cheat than ESTP but both are E’s and need a lot of interaction. I think ENFP are more people pleasers and would be more likely to cheat with someone they already whereas ESTP are more open to a one-nighter.

  13. Anonymous says:

    Well guess what? I’m an INFJ and for the first time ever in my life, I’m a cheater. Why? I met my husband in a sexual based online forum. He’s an ENFJ. Problem is, he doesn’t know how to express his feelings. Being an INFJ who came from a very broken home full of every possible type of abuse and neglect you can imagine, I chose a spouse based on his ability to not only financially support me but support me in life options and experiences. Well, as far a emotion and physicality, out of a scale of 0-10, he’s a big fat ZERO!!
    I have tried and tried and tried. He’s emotionally closed off. Sexually, he brings NOTHING to the bedroom. When I say nothing I mean nothing! What does he do? He financially pacifies me!
    Now, I have never been with a man lacking emotions, communication, and sexuality. Yes, we had a child because I have always wanted one and I adore them! Now, I have consistently sought out what is so badly missing and needing for an INFJ. And how? Online.
    Completely lacking emotion, communication skills, and sexuality, how can one live like that? Feeling that I can not leave for fear of not being able to provide for my son, as well as knowing he is a great man… Going to be a fantastic father and influence for him…. I can’t take that away. It was hard to have the conversation that I, the INFJ, had to muster up the strength to have with him. That about “this just isn’t working” and why. He thanked me. SA he was living in denial.
    We all only have one life to live.
    I’m so torn.
    I hit rock bottom within my sexual addiction (which is a process addiction) and sought out therapy. The bottom line is that I need to do yes, what’s best for me but also what’s best for my son. I feel very strongly the feeling my husband has. I don’t want to hurt him. Ican’t bring myself to taking the steps.
    I know he has pulled so far away from me it’s painful. I’m not cheating now. I’m faithful but we aren’t “together”. Well, still married but miserable.
    Who can live this way?? Who??

  14. Anonymous says:

    while I applaud your logic, the mbti manual does have some stats on which type is likely to look around, or have broken relationships. I recall enfp is right up there.

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